As most people familiar with the Personal Growth space of a bookstore know, eliminating negative or limiting beliefs is a central focus of helping people feel and live better. Most of those limiting beliefs come from two places: Now, most of those are about you, which is the focus of most self-help. If you believe that you can't succeed at doing...
Read MoreDisagreements can be tough. On one hand, you believe that you are right about your conclusions based on the information you have and the reasoning and ethics you are using to draw those conclusions. On the other hand, the other person believes the exact same thing. The reality is that you have different perspectives, information, and ethics, so...
Read MoreAn important part of feeling meaning and fulfillment in life is being proud of your actions. Your actions are how most people judge you, and those actions are judged based on both what the people see and how they perceive or interpret those actions. You also judge yourself based on your thoughts, beliefs, desires, ethics, and actions, but you hav...
Read MoreYou might not have chosen to be born, but you're surprisingly better off acting as if you had. You know the scenario: a parent and child get into an argument. There's usually some sort of pressure on the child to behave in some way or meet some set of expectations that results in the now-cliché response, "I didn't choose to be born!" What is caus...
Read MoreSigns. They’re indicators that you should make a decision or take an action in life. There are real, tangible signals in life like your emotions. Your emotions are giving you critical feedback as to your current state of growth or harm. If you’re happy, you’re healthy and growing; if you’re afraid, there is a danger to your health and safety.
Read MoreCognitive dissonance occurs when there is a conflict between a belief you hold and a behavior, new information, or a conflicting belief. The "dissonance" in this case causes discomfort, necessitating a change in the person's behavior or beliefs to alleviate it. The most famous example in history is the Aesop fable of Sour Grapes. In the fable, a...
Read MoreThis post is intentionally luring you in as the seeming beginning of a rant about how the world is one way but people refuse to accept it. On the contrary, however, seeing what you want to see is actually one of the keys to life and the secrets to happiness and success. To use it as a derogatory comment is pretty ironic in the grand scheme of thi...
Read MoreLaw of Attraction, or self-fulfilling prophecy? The power of faith, or the Placebo effect? Science and spirituality make different arguments for the cause and effect happening between human thoughts and behaviors and the outcomes that they see. What is really going on here, and (why) does it matter? Let’s explore.
Read MoreThis seems like it should be the shortest blog post ever: “Should you believe what’s true or what benefits you? What’s true, of course! What a stupid question!” Okay, well what if someone just had the greatest failure or disaster of their lives and the truth is that their life will never be the same again? What if their dog, friend, or family me...
Read MoreWhen people ask about their purpose, they often want a "greater" meaning or "higher" purpose in life. But what do they mean by this? Greater/Higher than what? Does this mean a divine meaning? And, if this exists, what is it for you, and is it the same for everyone? Well, while this sounds like an impossible question, it's actually fairly simpl...
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