Life Decisions

Desire

Having Socially Unacceptable Desires

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, January 12 2022

Desire.  Longing.  Hunger.  Craving.  We all know what it’s like to have that burning wanting for or needing of something.  Most motivational speakers will encourage you to go after it with everything you have and to crush any negative beliefs that are holding you back.  But there is one issue—both a belief and a reality—that causes a lot of people...

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Meaning

Disagreements Around Meaning

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, November 17 2021

Disagreements can be tough.  On one hand, you believe that you are right about your conclusions based on the information you have and the reasoning and ethics you are using to draw those conclusions.  On the other hand, the other person believes the exact same thing.  The reality is that you have different perspectives, information, and ethics, so...

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Life Goals

When "Keeping It Real" Goes Wrong

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, November 3 2021

People recommend that you should always be honest with and true to yourself.  When referring to being the person you want to be and doing what you want to do with your life, this is important advice.  However, there is a hidden interpretation that many people make from this that "honest" means being "real"--i.e., being realistic.  Hence, the idea o...

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Meaning

The Fine Line Between Justification and Rationalization

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, August 18 2021

An important part of feeling meaning and fulfillment in life is being proud of your actions.  Your actions are how most people judge you, and those actions are judged based on both what the people see and how they perceive or interpret those actions.  You also judge yourself based on your thoughts, beliefs, desires, ethics, and actions, but you hav...

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Success

Buy Insurance (and Other Ways to Control Your Reality)

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, August 4 2021

Reality can seem so harsh and unfair sometimes.  There is so much left up to chance: that freak injury during the big game; that seemingly arbitrary promotion of someone else over you.  I get that it can be hard to keep yourself sane and together.  However, there is great news: modern knoweldge and wisdom from science and philosophy have pretty muc...

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Choice

Facts, Conclusions, Recommendations, and Actions

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, May 19 2021

As I spoke about two weeks ago in my post, Conflating Science and Ethics, people like to find ways to conflate concepts so they can either get others to agree/comply with them or avoid having to put up an actual compelling, convincing argument for their position.  After all, you can argue with an opinion and weigh facts differently, but you can’t a...

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Planning

Setting Life Goals in 4 Easy Steps

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, May 12 2021

Ahhh, life goals: the symbol that someone has direction and purpose...and also the source of stress and anxiety.  How do you figure out your purpose?  How do you know that you picked the right goals and have the right plan to move forward?  What are the best goals to have?  If you’re like many people, these questions are generating anxiety already.

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Planning

When to Socialize Your Goals

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, April 28 2021

You have a burning desire to accomplish a goal.  Do you tell anyone?  Good question; let’s explore the science behind socializing goals. First, it’s important to be clear about the misconceptions around whether socializing your goals is beneficial or harmful.  If you have seen these studies, you may be aware that news organizations can grossly misi...

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Happiness

Why It's Difficult to Figure Out What Will Make You Happy

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, January 27 2021

Ahhh, happiness.  It's what people think the whole point of life is.  But happiness seems to be so evasive.  You don't always know what will make you happy, and even if you do then it seems so fleeting.  What is going on here?  Can you truly live happily ever after?  Can you buy happiness?  What even is happiness, and can you define it?  Once you d...

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Planning

Would You Really Want to Know Your Future?

Nathanael Garrett Novosel, September 9 2020

People often say that they wish that they could see what the future held for them.  If only they knew whether that relationship would work, they would get the job they applied for, or they really wanted to pursue that hobby.  After all, they could avoid a lot of pain, disappointment, and seemingly wasted time if they did the right thing every time...

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