You have probably heard these clichés before: These statements are reflections of how your perception influences your reality. At first, someone who is pessimistic or facing a problem won’t be very receptive to these kinds of points; it’s like telling someone to calm down—they probably won’t want to hear that, and they’re not going to be...
Read MoreWhile this blog is intentionally focused on helping you figure out your life for yourself, many people do want hints at to what they should care about in life: goals to have, things to focus on or prioritize, or just simply what to do. While everyone’s life goals will be different, there is, fortunately, a short list of things that everyone in...
Read MoreEveryone wants to grow into their ideal future state. Regardless of whether you want to be an athlete, a musician, or a family man, you want to get the best outcome out of as little effort as possible. (Unfortunately, outcomes are often correlated with effort) But how do you actually do that? How do you optimize your growth and development to...
Read MoreOne of the hardest parts of life is letting go of your past. They call it “baggage” for a reason: it weighs you down and holds you back. Yes, there are things that definitely do legitimately restrict your behavior: owning a home, holding a job, having a spouse, having children, and similar responsibilities and obligations. But that’s not what...
Read MoreI wrote a blog post a few years ago about standing out vs. fitting in that was pretty popular. It seems like people are always trying to optimize the degree to which they stand out in a good way but fit in where sticking out would be negative. For example, no one would walk around wearing underwear on their head if they wanted to be accepted by...
Read MoreA popular position to take in life is that of the “realist”—meaning you try to set real expectations and not get your hopes up because they might get crushed. It is a middle ground between optimism and pessimism, where in the former you try to see life events in as positive as a light as possible and the latter in a negative light. The pessimist...
Read MoreThere is a famous saying, “This, too, shall pass.” Whether you are going through good times or bad times, those times will change. The interesting thing about that is that it is a double-edged sword: if you’re suffering, you (of course) want them to change; if you’re are having a blast, you don’t want the fun or joy to
Read More“Always be content; never be satisfied,” is a statement that I like to use to explain the ideal attitude that you should have toward life. It’s a succinct way to explain the (seemingly paradoxical) relationship between two things that you need to do simultaneously: you want to always be grateful for what you have (which should make you feel...
Read MoreIn my book, The Meaning of Life: A guide to finding your life’s purpose, I cover what people mean by “meaning” when they ask that question. The number one thing they mean by that is, “What goals should I have?” While “meaning” can refer to definition, purpose, significance, goals, or ethics, the one people most mean is goals. Why? Because...
Read MoreI always wondered why there are so many holidays. Yes, I know that the primary stated reasons are to commemorate a person, event, or idea and to take a moment to remember them and what significance they have to your life. People can get caught up in their day-to-day lives and neglect things like their health, their relationships, and their...
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