Nathanael Garrett Novosel, April 30 2025

Is Never Being Satisfied a Good Thing or Bad Thing?

“Always be content; never be satisfied,” is a statement that I like to use to explain the ideal attitude that you should have toward life. It’s a succinct way to explain the (seemingly paradoxical) relationship between two things that you need to do simultaneously: you want to always be grateful for what you have (which should make you feel appreciation and contentment), but you should always strive to be better and more (i.e., never get complacent and stop growing). The former is represented by the famous quotation, “Be grateful for everything you have in life,” while the latter is lampooned by the comedian Bill Hicks when he tells the joke, “Adam and Eve were in the Garden of Eden, and Adam said one day, Wow, Eve, here we are, at one with nature, at one with God, we'll never age, we'll never die, and all our dreams come true the instant that we have them. And Eve said, Yeah... it's just not enough is it?” So, what’s up with this paradox? Is it good or bad to be satisfied?

In short, the ideal balance is to be happy with where you are and excited about where you are going. If you do that, you will be in the perfect place of living in the moment while working toward the future. An example might be how you work hard for most of the year and then take a two-week vacation where you just disconnect and relax. If you’re on vacation and you worry incessantly about the future, then you’re not getting the stress relief that the vacation is meant to provide. On the other hand, if you constantly sit around and play video games and never work toward your goals, you’ll never improve your life. People who get used to things often take them for granted and fail to maintain them, while people who can never live in the moment because they are thinking about the past or future will burn themselves out with stress.

So, how do you strike this balance? There are a few techniques to help you balance your life between contentment and drive:

I’m sure that you can think of many more. The point of these techniques is to give you the best balance between contentment with your life and desire for more. Never being satisfied can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how it optimizes your outcomes in life. If you’re never satisfied with other people, for example, then you’ll likely have unhealthy relationships—you need to be appreciative of others even as you push them to be better just like you should for yourself. Similarly, you can keep pushing yourself, but if it makes you miserable and less productive, then it might be backfiring. Try to find the optimal balance between contentment with your life and desire for more that works for you to maximize your happiness and fulfillment with life. The balance that keeps you growing in a healthy way and you feel good about is likely the correct one.

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Nathanael Garrett Novosel

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