Success. It is what everyone talks about striving for. But what is success? Is it earning a lot of money or having a family? The American Dream, for example, was the secure job, the house with the white picket fence, the spouse, ~2 kids, and a dog. Is that success for you, though? And even if you could define what success was, how would you k...
Read MoreFiguring out what you want in life is difficult. You can spend hours agonizing over decisions. There’s a reason why ice cream shops offer free samples and many products and services offer trials: experience can be the best teacher regarding what you want or don’t want. So, how do you know when additional thought and discussion versus when more e...
Read MoreYou might not have chosen to be born, but you're surprisingly better off acting as if you had. You know the scenario: a parent and child get into an argument. There's usually some sort of pressure on the child to behave in some way or meet some set of expectations that results in the now-cliché response, "I didn't choose to be born!" What is caus...
Read MoreI know, I know—this headline is going to elicit groans from all of the memories of having to deal with an HR department when getting hired, promoted, or let go. I get the stigma associated with HR. But in my research and identifying the keys to success in life, I was looking for analogies that could best explain how it worked. When doing so, the...
Read MoreAhhh, life goals: the symbol that someone has direction and purpose...and also the source of stress and anxiety. How do you figure out your purpose? How do you know that you picked the right goals and have the right plan to move forward? What are the best goals to have? If you’re like many people, these questions are generating anxiety already.
Read MoreYou have a burning desire to accomplish a goal. Do you tell anyone? Good question; let’s explore the science behind socializing goals. First, it’s important to be clear about the misconceptions around whether socializing your goals is beneficial or harmful. If you have seen these studies, you may be aware that news organizations can grossly misi...
Read MoreMany philosophical and analytical people love to talk about the nature of reality and our existence. Is any of this real, or are we living in a computer simulation? Did we come from nothing, or is there a non-physical realm we go to or come from. Did someone (ourselves or a creator) will us to be here?
Read MorePeople often say that they wish that they could see what the future held for them. If only they knew whether that relationship would work, they would get the job they applied for, or they really wanted to pursue that hobby. After all, they could avoid a lot of pain, disappointment, and seemingly wasted time if they did the right thing every time...
Read MoreFor years, I advised heads of Enterprise Architecture functions on how to create effective roadmaps. If you don’t know what EA it, it is basically a way to understand and document how the organization operates so that you can map out how it can or should operate optimally. Then, your goal is to slowly move toward the best way of operating, which re...
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